My Journey From Talkative Girl To Silent Woman

Journey which nearly made me invisible in my society is the journey from being a talkative to a silent woman. Many women of India can co-relate this story to them.Oh I forgot to mention many MARRIED WOMEN can co-relate this story to them. Thanks to our precious culture which turns all extrovert girls to introvert (sanskari) women. The girl who won debates in her college with her knowledge, logic and wit will bend down to any illogical and unfair person just for the sake of the sanskars given by her parents. This is how this problem starts. The winning statement of almost every illogical oldies is the same "yehi sanskar deke bheja hai maa-baap ne".

I may be rude in my language but this is the fact in most of the families. You can't be right in your in-laws house ever. The girl who is appreciated for everything by her parents is criticized for everything by her parents-in-law. This journey is not very pleasant but most of us are forced for it. It is very difficult to return from there. Hiding in your shell may be easy but it is definitely not a solution to your problem. Good news is that you can make a comeback. If you are going through this phase in life, here are solutions from my experiences.

  • Take out your me-time - In your busy schedule, don't forget yourself. Spare some time for yourself and enjoy your me time. Do whatever you love to do. It may be singing, dancing or simply sitting on your couch doing nothing.
  • Don't get disconnected to your friends- After marriage we often disconnect with our friends who meant a lot to us. Stay connected to them. Friends are the real assets of anyone's life. They will remind you always who you are. They will never like alteration in you.
  • Your opinions may vary- Make it clear that your opinions may vary from others, it doesn't make you wrong person. Moreover, it is not necessary that your thought process is always wrong. Believe in yourself.
  •  Never stop learning- You should be open-minded in grasping new things. Try to learn from everyone and everything.
  • Don't loose self confidence- You should not loose your self-confidence. Its OK if you are disliked by some people. Ignore what disturbs you.
  • Remember your fundamental rights- Freedom is our birth right. Use it wisely.Explain this precisely that you have the right to speak.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    List could me more longer.                                                                                                              I would love to hear from you also. If you have any suggestion for such situation you can point it out in the comment box. It can benefit any friend in need.

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